Does it Really Take 21 Days to Form a Habit?

“It takes 21 days to form a habit!” Wrong! This came from a cosmetic surgeon back in 1960. His name was Maxwell Maltz who did facial reconstruction. Something Peculiar! Dr. Maltz noticed something very peculiar. When he performed corrective surgery, many of these patients could not see a difference. “See! I told you it wouldn’t […]

How to Stay Happy Around Negative People

Some people are naturally negative; they complain, bicker, or always see the glass as half empty. So here are three tips for dealing with the “negative Nancy’s of the world.” First: View this challenge as an opportunity for growth When you take time to put things into perspective and alter your perception about what the […]

Procrastination Can Be a Real Killer of Dreams

Many people think that procrastination is simply a sign of perfectionism, while others think that procrastination comes from our desire to be perfect, or because we feel lazy, or we feel we’re not good enough, or we feel we’re going to fail. However, here is the truth on the matter. Procrastination is the opposite of […]

Rewriting Your Own Personal History

Many of us are convinced that we are hopelessly linked to our past. We say to ourselves, “After all, doesn’t my upbringing as a kid, or what I did or did not do remain a part of me all my life?” It is the idea that your past remains all-important; that because something once strongly […]

The Election…and Your Feelings

Many Americans work up Wednesday morning feeling absolutely stunned…then afraid…confused…and some even angry. However…did you know that your feelings are not coming from the election! They are coming from your beliefs about the election. This is a principle that was suggested back in a little book titled “A Guide to Rational Living,” written by Dr. […]

Creating Goals that Work for YOU

Change, goals and your future A goal always involves the future, which is the reason that many of them are not met. Let me explain. All of us must live in the present, so to create “Goals that work,” let’s learn how to take those goals and put them in the present…where you and are […]

Two Steps for Replacing Resentment with Compassion

Many unions end “not with a bang, but a whimper.”  Their final rupture is not caused by too much anger or abuse or infidelity. They die a slow death from too little compassion. Many years ago, one of my students asked me, ‘Mr. Campbell…how do you stay married…much less in love….with the same person for 44 years?” Good […]

How Long Does It Take to Form a Habit

People are always asking, “So…how long does it take for me to form a habit, and how long does it take for my brain to rewire itself?[i] The answer used to be “21 days!” And it came from a plastic surgeon. In 1925, Dr. Maxwell Maltz began his practice in facial reconstruction, Over time, he […]

What Does Meditation Do to Your Brain?

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you don’t need to be told about the relaxing effects of meditation. Its practitioners vouch for it; and even those who don’t will not dispute its effectiveness. And now, neuro-scientists are discovering how meditation can actually alter your brain’s chemistry and functionality.   Let’s see how!   Neuroscientists […]

Some Flab Is Fine…The Advantages of Being a LIttle Overweight

Yes, dear reader…you read this right. Flab is actually good for you! In fact, scientists are discovering that being a little overweight comes with quite a few benefits! According to scientific studies over several years, our fat cells (the ones many of us are desperately trying to melt away by jogging, sprinting, swimming, or walking) […]